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When we don't progress we regress, staying in the same place is an impossibility.

  • By Ziv Ben-Dov, MS, MFA, NCC, LPC
  • 26 Apr, 2018

When we don’t make progress in our life, it’s only a sign that were not ready to gift ourselves.

When I’m in a “comfort phase” I don’t want to change anything I just want to be safe and make sure that I am not rocking the boat. When I am in a “change phase” nothing is safe, I’m vulnerable the boat is rocking and I don’t know what’s going to come out of it, but that’s the only time when I may make progress.

In my personal life, whether it is relationships or career, I’m always in one of the two phases… comfort/change. A phase can last sometimes for years. When I’m anchoring myself in a phase of comfort I always play safe. When I play safe, I don’t grow. When I decide to change nothing is safe. I allow myself to be vulnerable and yet I stand a chance of growing and making progress.

Think about it like time, it never stops. I can get lost in my own thoughts and do nothing, but time doesn’t stop. By the time I am ready to snap out of it, an hour, a day, a week, two years has passed and it will never come again.  So when I get off the train, it’s only me getting off the train, the train keeps moving forward. That is the way it is with time, progress, or anything in life.

Sometimes comfort is good and we can solidify our gains through or during a phase of comfort. If your phase of comfort seems to be prolonging, usually it’s a sign that your fears took over the reins of your life.

Self-sabotaging is when my brain tells me not to dare to take a chance. When your brain runs its own course without your check, it will always keep you safe and you will become defensive. You are not your brain. You have the power to identify what your brain does and choose to make a move. When you make a move, you will discover your real potential, strength, creativity, and you will discover the intense pleasure of overcoming your fears.

If you want someone to tell you that everything is going to be alright, don’t call Out of the Box Therapy. Call one of the local institutions. If you want to gift yourself with progress, come see Ziv and we will walk together through the minefield that you have laid (self-sabotage) and by unearthing one mine at a time, you will gift yourself with progress and success.

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